Life is not a race, but a journey – Prachi GeraSeptember 21, 2017
My Dad once told me something, though I know he read it somewhere himself, but that line has sticked to me for years.
“Everyone in this world works based on their time zone.
People around you might seem to be ahead of you and some might seem to be behind you. But everyone is running their own race, in their own time.
Do not envy them and do not mock them.
They are in their time zone, and you are in yours.
Life is about waiting for the right moment to act.
You’re not early.
You’re not late.
You are very much on time.”
So far all I had heard was, “Life is a race, you have to be fast to win it, you have to defeat the person beside you”
After hearing what my Dad told me, I found a change in myself, instead of seeing my classmates as my competition, I saw them as friends. I found a great change in me, nobody could defeat me, if I won in my own eyes, and of those who matter to me.
I am told i am a helpful person, thatI give myself so that I can do something for a friend. Many people call it stupidity, I do agree with it at times, when I find myself alone. But at others,I see what it has taught me; it has taught me to be responsible, to accept criticism, to build a team and also to compete alone.
During my internships, when I saw others suffering because they could not handle criticism, or because they weren’t ready to do the work of others,I realized how important my attitude was. How life gives you lemons all the time,and how to chill with them.
I agree its stupidity to be always there for others, to not hold grudges, and to not being able to say “no” (the most difficult thing for me). But saying “yes” has taught me how i can face anything in life. How any situation does not terrify me and how I can always stand up every time I fall. I am called the “bro” of my gang, just coz I keep an open mind to things, and to be honest though it peeves me at times, I feel atleast its better than not being able to accept the reality of life. Atleast it is better than sitting alone. Because even though I am an introvert at times, I would still prefer company to just make me laugh instead of sitting alone.
Every experience in my life has taught me something. Starting from a convent school, I learned discipline in life, going abroad, taught me that there is more to life than I could have ever thought. Changing back to India,I found that though I have an open mind, not everyone is ready to accept my thoughts and that I can’t force a change in anyone. All I could do was “Agree to Disagree”.
As for Amity, I found myself as an altogether different personality. I made friends, so many that I have lost count, though I had tiffs with a few but I guess that’s basic human nature. With time people realized that I am not a competition, that I am a friend, that I am not competing with them, just with myself. I might score low, I might have lost a few games, but my Dad and mom always told me one single thing “do better than you did last time, that’s all we expect from you.”
During 9th and 10th when everyone is thinking about what to do with life, I was doing the same, I was confused, though it had been a childhood dream to be “Gynecologist”, I asked my Dad, “what should I choose?”. My Dad knew my dream, but he also saw my passion for novels, he saw how I used to hide novels, in my school books to read them, soI could start another the next day. He simply asked me “What do you wanna do?”. And I went on to say “you know my dream”. He said “Yes!!I know it, but I also know your passion”. I didn’t have any words. He went on to say, “be anything, if you feel you are a good reader, then be that, I have no problem. But whatever you do, be the best at it, I know your potential and don’t waste it in doing what others are doing”.
I had nothing to say, I stayed quiet and selected medical in school. I gave about 15-20 medical entrance exams, didn’t get MBBS in any good college. Though it was my first failure in academics, I didn’t feel bad. It was that day I understood my Dad’s words, and what they meant.
When I came back to India in 11th, I scored very low in physics and chemistry.My parents had expected that since just came back. Though the other 3 teachers were quite pleased by my performance, these two told my parents “that I couldn’t do anything in life, because I don’t have the potential”. My Dad came out of that meeting and just said one thing “lets go eat something, PTMs are too hectic.” I was shocked, Iexpected a scolding. While eating all he told me was “you know what you are capable of, and I know you would do it”.
I worked for that confidence in me, at the end of 12th, those two teachers called me personally and even though I wasn’t the topper, but told me one thing “you are our gem”. They also said that it was the toughest thing they had done, to say something completely opposite about a student after such a short span.
And I have carried all this with me since then.
Nobody decides what you should do, when you should do it, or whether you have succeeded in it or not.
You do that.
A positive and winning attitude makes you a winner not your triumphs.