Everybody can succeed – you need to attract success not repel it -Ram RamkumarAugust 17, 2016
In 1952, Norman Vincent Peale published “The Power of Positive Thinking”. How relevant is it in today’s world? Over 60 years after the book was penned, it remains as relevant (if not more) as it did when it was first published. One cannot ignore the basic thought process that drives one to be successful – ignore or belittle it at your own risk.
Over the years, coaches and mentors in any sphere (from Management Gurus to Sports Coaches) talk about the same thing and inculcate Positive Thinking as part of the recipe to success. Visualization of success and reaping the rewards of such success is key to the mental set up of a successful individual.
In Golf, coaches tell you to visualize a successful shot before you hit it. You need to play the shot in your head – watch as the golf club comes down in a smooth stroke and the ball flies directly to where you intended the ball to go. All thoughts have to remain positive. This pretty much ensures that half the battle is won.
At work one may have a tough target that appears insurmountable. Here too, the key is to remain positive. Think only about achieving the target and how you are being congratulated by your boss and colleagues for achieving the target in trying circumstances. Once you are able to channel your thoughts positively, you are on the highway to success.
It is extremely important to stay clear of negative thoughts at all times, because remember – Negativity brings on more negativity. In Golf, if you even for a moment think that you are going to put the ball in the water, you are guaranteed to send the ball into the water. Only think about how the ball lands safely on the green. Similarly, when approaching a tough task, never focus on the pitfalls – because you will be dragged into them – only think about how you are overcoming those obstacles.
Positive thinking is also your key to happiness. As an individual, it is important to focus on what you have and be thankful for what you have achieved or attained. With that out of the way, the next focus is to look at what can drive you to greater heights – think through the process that will take you there and then you are well on your way. Once again, it must be stressed that one should not think of things that you do not have and stress out about it. “Keeping up with the Joneses” is a prime example of such pitfalls. Such thoughts only take you deeper into the chasm of negativity – and once that happens, it is extremely difficult to dig yourself out of that pit.
The explanation is simple. Once you feel that you have enough, there is no pressure to achieve more. Once the pressure to succeed is lifted, you will be surprised how easy it is to perform or achieve those tasks and targets. The more pressure you build on yourself with negative thoughts about failure, the higher your risk of falling short of your targets. Always think about HOW you are going to achieve something – rather than IF you will achieve the target. At the risk of being repetitive, the moment you sow seeds of doubt in your own mind, you are on the highway to disaster – nothing good can come of it.
Live for the moment, forget about the past and don’t stress yourself over the future. Be proud of your own success. Also remember that there is no such thing as a “Superiority complex” – it is only a manifestation of Inferiority complex – the need for somebody to prove too himself and others that he or she is not inferior. If you are content with what you have, there is no need to prove to yourself or others that you are not inferior. As Eleanor Roosevelt once said “Nobody can make you feel inferior without your own consent”.
I have utilized these simple mantras in my own life and must admit that they have been key to achieving whatever I have – be it in my personal or professional spheres. And am I feeling happy? That would be a big YES!